Safety Guide
Safety Guide
Fakers2go and RomanceScams provide some tips on how to stay safe when ‘meeting’ online contacts and other strangers which is well worth reading. We would like to add a few more.
1. Never be in a hurry to meet strangers you meet online or offline, unless their identity and bona fides have been clearly established. Do not entertain anonymous callers and hidden numbers, unless you can clearly verify how they obtained your number or contact information.
2. Be wary of persons who change phone numbers, profiles and profile location constantly. Persistent ‘flashing’ and use of ‘Call Me’ sms, is not a good sign.
3. If you plan to meet any such person, check with friends as to their profile and supposed identity and character, and let someone always know what time you plan to meet, where, and when the meeting is over.
4. Do not share unnecessary personal information with strangers. It is not their business to know where and with whom you live/work, how often you travel, if you are married etc. Such information can be used to your detriment.
5. In your online and sms communications, steer clear of overtly sexual content as this kind of information is easily preserved, shared, and can be used as evidence against you.
6. Do not invite people who live at a distance from you, without a clear understanding of how they or you, intend to finance their coming and going.
7. Be wary of any contacts whose appearance is at odds with their stated situation/profession. Quite often the fakers may dress to impress but their communication skills as evidenced in online chats and texts often betray a certain lack of education and refinement. ‘Txt spk’ is ok among established friends, but …
8. Always arrange to meet in a public environment you know and are comfortable with. Do not be afraid to terminate such a meeting if you feel uncomfortable. Be polite and excuse yourself. If the person has put up a fake picture or provided false information to lure you into meeting, terminate the meeting immediately.
9. If you choose to invite strangers to your residence, be aware that they may choose to return at a time that is inconvenient to you, or may share your details with others. If you must have strangers in your home, make sure your portable properties (laptops, phones, ipods, perfumes, clothes etc.) are safely out of sight and reach. If you are in gated premises, make sure the security understands that strangers visiting you should not leave with bags or properties they did not come with, or even better, they should not leave without your clear consent.
10. Do not eat or drink anything that you have not seen being purchased or cannot be sure has not been tampered with, if offered to you by a stranger.
11. If you have a bad experience with a person you met on or offline, let your friends know about it, and do let us know about it. Profile name, ‘real’ name, picture, and a description of the persons method of operation is essential.
12. Be wary of strangers who make subtle financial demands, whether for ‘transport’, sick relative, school fees, rent etc. Be even more wary, when such demands are mixed with professions of desire, love, affection, or sex.
13. Typically, a prostitute negotiates a fee and is paid before service is rendered. If you choose to be involved in any sex-for-cash arrangement you already have consented to relate with the lower end of society. They often have nothing to lose so the question is, do you?
pls help out ooo, this guy on manjam with id dubarmanoo7s now change it to day to clarkguy4us he stole a laptop from abuja and is now asking for 100,000 to return it
Let’s all just go get assorted dildos for the hollidays. This is all very dreadful.
BREAKING NEWS! BREAKING NEWS!! BREAKING NEWS!!!
Wole Ojo, the dracular teethed prominent member of the Nack-Out Girls now appears as MAGICFINGAZ on MANJAM. He seems desperate as he is now always online (christmas is around the corner…lol).
BE WARNED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i want every one to read this story and see what is going on in other part of the world
food for tot.
A priest was murdered in South africa and his dead body was found 3 days after he was murdered. the question is who murdered the priest . The priest is a gay.
after a thorough investigation the killet was found and then i will like we all to read this piece and conclude how safety we will be when meeting some one new. this is the real story.
Self-confessed killer says sorry to priest’s family
2009/12/03
David MacGregor and Adrienne Carlisle
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BONGANI PAULOS
THE man who bludgeoned popular Grahamstown priest Clive Newman to death told the murdered cleric’s family yesterday that he was “deeply sorry” for killing him.
Watched by Newman’s father, Terry, and other grieving relatives, Bongani Paulos said he had beaten the Anglican College of Transfiguration lecturer to death to try to stop his persistent sexual advances.
Pleading guilty to murder and theft, the 25-year-old business college graduate told the Grahamstown High Court he “was not that desperate for money to take someone’s life”.
“I can’t reverse it. I am sorry for everything that happened and I am sorry for their loss.”
The articulate young man said he had chosen to testify because he wanted to “say with my own words” to Newman’s family that it had never been his intention to kill him and he was “deeply sorry”.
Paulos acknowledged that although Newman had made persistent sexual advances, which he said had “dishonoured” him, he was not aggressive. He also described the cleric as appearing to be a “nice” and “genuine” person.
Earlier, Paulos told the court how he was hitch-hiking from Cape Town to his wife and two children in Aliwal North when Newman stopped near Colchester to offer him a lift.
Arriving in Grahamstown, the priest offered him a place to stay and tried to convince him to have sex that night.
“He asked several times for me to put my hands on him and I refused,” Paulos said. “He said I must touch him on the front and I said ‘No, I am not used to things like that’.”
Although he admitted sharing a double bed at Newman’s flatlet at the Anglican college, a sobbing Paulos told Judge Clive Plasket it did not mean he wanted to have sex.
“It was his place. I obeyed what he said … I did not ask to sleep there.”
The next day, Paulos was dropped outside town but later returned to Newman when he could not get a lift.
Asked by Deputy Director of Public Prosecutions Malherbe Marais why he returned the next night, Paulos said he had “nowhere else to go”.
“I did not think something like the night before would happen again. I believe I told him I don’t like that and he would not do it again.”
He attacked Newman with a “kierie” after he initially asked him to massage his back – and then requested he work his way lower down.
He said he had covered Newman’s body with a blanket before fleeing as he was bleeding profusely.
He said Newman was still moving and acknowledged that his life might still have been saved if he had called for help. “Scared and confused”, he had stolen the car to try and get out of town fast.
Grilled by Marais on why he had not asked someone to get help for Newman once he had reached Fort Beaufort, an upset Paulos said: “What could I do? Walk up to someone and say: ‘Hi, I think I killed someone, please call the police?’ Who would do that?”
Bizarrely, Paulos admitted he had carefully filled in the logbook in Newman’s car each time he put petrol in the tank. He said he had not filled the logbook in at the time of putting petrol in, but had done so later while “feeling bored”.
According to the entries, he put petrol in the stolen car shortly after the murder in Grahamstown and later the same day in Fort Beaufort. He had then put in R310 in Smithfield.
Asked why he had not sold the car in the three weeks it was in his possession, he said simply: “It was not mine to sell.” However, he admitted he sold Newman’s laptop and cellphone for petrol money.
Asked by Marais why he had admitted to the crime when arrested, he said he believed in the Bible, which said that the truth would “set you free”. What he had done was wrong and he knew he would be punished, he said.
“I thought, if I told the truth, I might be able to get it out of my mind.”
more on the story.
we need to be CAREFUL.
Xmas is here and you know these thieves will be in full swing. Usually versatile tops, discreet and hung – LOL – looking to rip you off if you think with the wrong head. People that like to fall in love with pictures on the net, or visit hotels in strange places, or rush into bed with rough trade or even CSW’s, we will hear their stories come January.
tanx alot a frd introduced me to manjam and he stays in kaduna so i registered and i met a guy who call himself paul we met at a hotel in surulere behind afribank there i was held hostage by paul and 1 acclaimed police office 07025083691 and they went with my ATM emptied my acct and wanted to leave wth my laptop and car. dey also deleted all their sms and fone nos on my fone bt the police officer later gave me his no when he discovered am a medic i guess he may need my help smeday. it was a bad xperience bt tanks 4 this ntwk and tips we wld be more carefull
I’m Sorry to read about your ordeal, but what was his username on Manjam?
I have just spoken on phone to the alleged Police Officer who conspired to scam TEEBOI. He admitted without knowing the purpose of the call, that he is a Policeman attached to ONIPANU Police Station but when I accused him of been used by homosexual boys to blackmail and rob people of their property and that I picked his number from a website that exposes this criminality he became incoherent and with his voice shaking, he denied ever being a Police Officer!He also said I got a wrong number as he doesnt know what I am talking about. HE IS A LILLY LIVERED LIAR!
Hi,
I must say this site is really useful. I happen to have been a victim of one of these lagos chaps. He goes with the name Jackson (A.K.A Ghanaboi )but his real name is EMEKA EBINUM. Found out his real name after he stole my laptop and was demanding for cash to be transfered into his oceanic bank account before i get back my laptop. His account number with Oceanic Bank is 0480001030326. He uses the following numbers to call me 08037377951 and 07028326364. I also recall he spoke with Damian whoes pic and profile is on lagos heat. He came to abuja with about four other friend of his of which one of them is Dare. As at the time I met Dare early this year he hold me he was working with UBA as a cash teller and was coming to abuja to spend some days off. After a long chat i did allow the Dare come over to Abuja and spend some time at my end for like 2 day. During this period i was extremely very careful and he never succeeded in stealing anything from my house. Dare, Emeka and three other are currently been looked for all around abuja. They have been stealing laptops and blackberry fones from people. The current trend is that they use charms on their repective victims and you would not know what is really happening ontil they have collected and gone with what they are looking for. Dare uses 08022413443.
Seriously, I do think Valentine is right about the charm aspect. Isn’t there a way to start up a real collective effort to stop these fools? And they are fools really because if you really think deep, it’s so so easy track them down. Problem is a lot of victims simply take it in stride and move on thinking it’s just a small thing. That thinking exactly is what giving these vermin the impetus to think they are smart enough to prey on people who are by far their betters. It shouldn’t continue.
If we all did our part … and that means sharing information about these incidents when they occur. We can always be reached by email, but will only respond to sensible mails that contain information relevant to this blog. Your point is well noted.
hey, nice work folks
i have a way their pictures can easily be obtained online and posted here subsequently, but i dont want to write it here for every ones knowledge, including the pranksters. is there an email i could send it to? it very often works for me, cos i always see peoples pictures before i meet them, and they dont even know that i have seen them.